I need to preface that this blog is not meant to be malicious or anyone or anything but there are some frustrations I am having about my life and I figured why not put them down here.....
With that said...giddy up
God is working on me, working on breaking this very stubborn, hard, but still willing, open heart. He is at work on this paradox I like to call me. This process makes me want to both raise my voice in frustration and praise at times.
But for the first time in a long time I have felt not only that God is working on my heart, but mostly that I am willing to let him....like I stated above...I am very stubborn. However, God has really begun to break this hardened clay heart I have built over the last 8 (or more) years.
Do I struggle with self worth, well yes, yes I do. I will be the first to admit that. I can be so self-loathing that I become self-destructive. That is not of God; that guilt, that angst, that hatred....that's not of Christ. I am very well aware of that, but it is a demon I am plagued with and try to choose daily to battle, with the strength of God, and not of my own.
And satan works really hard to chip away at my soul through this demon, this thorn of self-loathing, he is very clever, very smart, he uses many different forms to dig at my soul.
Lately, for the past month or so, that avenue of lies has been regarding my singleness. I feel like I am being hit from every side regarding this aspect of my life, through my everyday expriences at work, through my social interactions, through my family, and even my friends.
I feel like all I keep hearing from people lately is in a nutshell this statement: "your life would be all fixed, God would make everything better, and you would be complete if you would just find yourself a husband"
Guess what?!?!.....I UNDERSTAND THAT I AM BROKEN!!!! But my wholeness resides in a God that loves me, that is calling me to Himself, and beckoning me to find a better way of loving Him, loving others, and loving myself that what everyone else seems to think is the answer.
Do I desire to get married; to find the man that God has created for me to be with, the one I will be the greatest and most amazing wife to..... It is one of the greatest and deepest desires of my heart.
But finding a husband is not the answer to everything!!!!
So don't tell me that getting into a relationship is going to make my life magically better, and that its the only way God is going to work in my life. If God chooses that, then ok, but don't speak that to me as if its the only truth, the only way.
I just want people to stop making me feel like I'm incomplete simply because I don't have a husband right now. Stop making me feel and telling me that I am not ok because I'm not dating, because I feel like God is telling me just the opposite.
Stop telling me I'm not doing ok, when Christ is telling me that He is doing good in me right now.........